Things for dating couples to talk about
Confucius said, “Choose a job that you love and never work a day in your life.
Well, that’s dandy, but what about when the job you love requires you to travel, stay at work late, and generally eats up a lot of your time?
It is how the arguments are handled that can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship. Communicating effectively can feel impossible in the heat of the moment.
We know how to have this conversation outside of our relationship but when it comes to exploring this topic with our lover we feel anxious, vulnerable, and unclear. But feel the fear and talk about your sex life anyway!Or rather, what if your partner’s job requires this?OR, what if this doesn’t apply to you at all and you are in a job you dislike or even despise?” or acting it out in your body language via the silent treatment or a pouty face, you can make a statement like, “I got really dressed up for you and I don’t feel noticed.It would make me feel really good if you made more of an effort to acknowledge when I get dressed up.” Responding this way increases your chances of your partner recognizing your feelings non-defensively.
I have worked with numerous couples in therapy that describe frequent arguing, violated expectations, and profound disappointment in one another and in the relationship, often in part because of financial issues. I encourage couples to set time aside each month to have a money meeting. Baby names and nursery decor are fun, but there’s so much more territory to traverse besides picking the perfect appellation.